We’re at the beach. The sand is warm and the ocean looks inviting.
Picture me sitting comfortably on a beach chair and you’re relaxed comfortably on another.
I’m talking about stuff and you’re listening, coaxing me to talk, and listening again. When I pause, you pause with me. You provide the space to let the pauses sink in. And when the pause feels explored, you say
Tell me more.
This learning how to write, this practicing in public, it is hard. Many times I feel discouraged. The lizard brain and the ego meet up and fight. Fear and worry about what others think square off with the desire for recognition and applause.
Tell me more.
I want to tell the story of how people can use small steps and moments to move forward with their lives. I’ve chosen a path that involves writing, and I want to write more effectively, as the wonderful writers I read do. Not exactly imitating them, but finding my own style, being helpful but not clinical. I want to write in a personal, playful, yet specific way.
For me, one-on-one conversation is easier. I’ve practiced it for years.
However, maybe writing isn’t harder. Maybe it is just a new process, one of accepting the bad and recognizing where the growth will happen. Perhaps before we become experts, we need to learn how to be bad.
To see bad as the first step to being good?
Yes, like learning to ride a bike or committing to a new relationship or eating new food. It can all start with being bad, with not knowing what to do.
So you just have to keep doing that new thing, right?
Tell me more.
Hmmm.
When I stop being bad, which is difficult, I will have taken the first step to being good. Interesting.
Well, I think that’s about it for now. I appreciate that you listened and let me talk.
Sure. No problem. I look forward to future talks.
Thanks. This has been helpful.
Now, tell me more about you.
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hello jim,
how are you?
i loved the concept of this post which highlights the essence of persistence and resilence in constructive things and emphasizes the need to feel comfortable even if we started off on the wrong foot because constant practice would move us from bad to good. it’s also amazing how you take us through different routes but ends up driving home the need to take things one step at a time which is the purpose of your blog.
enjoy the rest of the day
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Ayo, I’m fine, thank you for asking. And thank you for your kind words and twittering! Seeing the bad as merely a step in turning good, fuels my discipline and resilience. Your comments fuel them too. Thanks for checking in and sharing here. Jim